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On The Mommy Hook – Giveaway

One of the recent challenges I’ve had with being a new mom is trying to maneuver a trip to the store with a newborn. After much trial and error I think I’ve gotten it down to a manageable level. One of the products that has helped me is The Mommy Hook.

The Mommy Hook is a must have accessory for any parent. It makes carrying your purses, groceries, diaper bags, even sports equipment simple by just hooking it onto the back of your stroller or shopping cart. I have two hooks, so I like using it to carry a hand basket at the store. I can’t put anything extremely heavy in the hand basket otherwise it’ll tip over the stroller, but I haven’t ran across that yet!

Also, if you’re the kind of person* who would rather use every ounce of strength you have taking all the bags of groceries out of your car in one trip than go back to your car and make a second trip for those last two bags, then The Mommy Hook is also really helpful with that. I just hook my bags onto it, and the foam nonslip grip makes it so much easier than having a ton of bag handles practically cutting off the circulation in my hands. On the days when I require more things than a hand basket can carry, these are super helpful. This would have really helped me while I was in London and I needed a place to store my many stretch/workout bands. Seriously.

Lucky for you, I am giving away 2 Mommy Hooks! The giveaway will run from now until Thursday at 11:59 PM EST. This is open to US residents only.

To enter here use the widget below:

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The winner will be announced here and be contacted via email address. They have 48 hours to respond, otherwise a new winner will be chosen. I will forward the information over to The Mommy Hook who will send the prize directly to the address given by the winner.

*Let’s be honest, that’s most of us– am I right?

This is not a sponsored post, I just received The Mommy Hook in exchange for a review. The words expressed here are my own opinion.

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On My One-Month Old

I cannot believe one month ago, my little baby boy made his debut into this world. This has been the longest month of my life, mainly because he has colic– help. me. At the same time it felt like I just blinked and Niko started growing out of his newborn diapers and clothes. What happened?! Aside from being completely sleep deprived and fueled by caffeine and questionably running on little food, because I never have time to really eat, I can say at this point I think I’m starting to get the hang of it. By “it” I mean functioning while being fueled by caffeine and questionably running on little food, because I never have time to really eat. I have also become quite adept to doing things with my one free hand, while balancing a baby in the other hand! I’m quite proud of that, and terrified at the same time.

Niko at 1 day old and 3 weeks old
Niko at 1 day old in the hospital versus 3 weeks old

Enough about me though, it’s really about Niko and this milestone of his. In this relatively short amount of time I’ve learned a lot about him. Without further ado, here’s a recap of him in the past month.

  • He is the kind of baby that needs “extra love”– in other words, you must be holding him while he’s awake. Some times it’s not just holding him, he likes to walk around with you, especially at 3-6AM in the morning. Fine. I’m a night person anyway. But is that even night? Nevermind..
  • He loves car rides. I love car rides with him. You know why? Because he’ll definitely fall asleep in the car. Of course the car has to be moving, and he will know the difference.
  • You would think a tiny person wouldn’t have more laundry than you. You would be WRONG. His hamper is full every week. Side note, I thought I received too many blankets to use, but I soon realized.. you cannot have too many receiving/swaddler blankets, because everything is a spit rag when you have a baby. No blanket? You better use your shirt before it gets ugly. Just saying. And I definitely go through many blankets.
  • He’s been able to hold his head up since he popped out of the womb, y’all! I didn’t even know babies could do that. I still have to hold his wobbly head, but he can lift it and hold it for a good few seconds without it jerking back like a bobble head.
  • I think he likes noise better than quiet. DANG IT!
  • He really likes baths. Thank God.
  • He enjoys using his walking reflex. He better enjoy it while he can before it disappears. That’s great for me that it’ll disappear soon, my arms are tired from holding him upright so he can “walk”.
  • Sometimes he makes these weird noises. He sounds like a baby velociraptor or cat or bird. I don’t know. It’s weird.
  • He has the best facial expressions. He can even raise both eyebrows separately. Not purposely, but I’m sure that’ll happen later on because I raise my eyebrows a lot. He cracks me up with them! He isn’t so amused by my amusement. Yet.
  • Since he’s been about two weeks old he’s been hitting his toys that make noises, usually with his right hand. At first I wasn’t sure it was a fluke, BUT he seems to be doing it purposely. I had to observe him doing it for a while to tell the difference. I didn’t want to be one of those parents, but basically my baby is a genius. I’m just letting you know this right now.

    With my one month old baby!
    Someone.. needed a nap in this photo. By someone I mean both of us.

    This month has been a whirlwind. I can’t even believe I went into labor and delivered him a month ago. When he was three weeks old I was feeding him and staring at him as usual, and I was thinking of the day he was born and how I said hello and happy birthday to him when we met. Cue the water works. It’s like a distant dream, really. It is true what other parents say, and even though it’s only been a month–time really does fly by!

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    On theory vs. actuality

    If you’ve hung around me enough, you have definitely heard me say, “in theory I like _____, but in actuality not so much.” I think I like/want something, then I get exactly what I wanted and am like hmm.. nevermind. That translates into a lot of areas in my life, but that is a conversation for another day. You would think at 25, I would know enough about myself to make an educated guess on what things I would like in actuality? But no.. I have a never ending list of things I do not care for, which grows exponentially everyday, but my list of things that I love/like is still really questionable.

    I’m here in London, and I figured I’d be OK with the weather here. In theory I like cold weather, but some days I cannot even muster enough energy to leave the warmth of my duvet. Even if the weather was great, I’d have that fight with myself every morning (or afternoon) about getting out of bed, but that’s not my point here. I feel like my face is literally going to freeze and fall off– every single day. I will not walk out of my flat with no less than two layers on my legs, and wearing three shirts and a jacket is no longer unusual for me. The fact that I have to actually walk in this weather? Ridiculous. Long gone are the days where my winter experience is just an inconveniently freezing walk to and from my car. No, now I actually have to walk in the elements. I can’t. But I do. Every day. Side note, my pores are so tight from the weather. That’s the only upside to this, but honestly no one gets close enough to my face to look at my pores but so…

    In theory, I would like more free time. I felt this way when I was in undergrad and working. I felt this way after undergrad and I was just working nonstop, then the holidays would roll around and I’d get my wish, and all I’d be thinking about is how much I would rather be in a lecture or working long hours. I’m mental. Not having stress, is literally one of the most stressful things for me. I had a good six weeks off in between terms at my university, and it was the most awful thing ever. I am pretty sure my mind rotted. You would think you have so much free time, you will get so much stuff done? Those things that you put off, those books that you never got around to reading.. that language you were going to pick up? Those things did not happen for me. I think I accomplished nothing, except working out. I was in excellent shape, just thought I’d throw that in there since right now it’s a different story. You ever notice that when you have a lot of things to do, you get more done, but if you have nothing or one thing to do– productivity is pretty much nonexistent? Is that just me? Are you one of those self-disciplined, productive types? …That’s great for you.

    In theory, I’d like to think I am great at being casual with people, as in having shallow relationships. But I can’t even.. It would be nice to not be so emotionally invested in people, and be able to compartmentalize but.. I can’t. Tried it. Everything that is important to me will not allow me to be this way towards people. That’s not such a bad thing right? At least my friends know I’m not being shallow with them, and actually like them! I just hate wasting time, and energy with people. I’d rather waste those things I cannot get back.. on you know.. napping or something more productive and rewarding.

    But let’s not just be exclusive to MY likes and dislikes, this theory and actuality malarkey extends beyond that. What about things people in general tend to think of as they appear.. theoretically but in actuality it’s another story? This easily can be translated to social media, which is full of smoke and mirrors. It’s basically a window for someone to carefully manipulate your opinion of them based on what they post. I can’t speak about everyone, but I realize that social media is a carefully concocted based on what people put out there, and as far as I can help it I try to make my life look not so dramatic, or not as dramatic as I imagine it is in my head. And bad pictures of me will not be posted by me, because why would I do that? That’s weird. Speaking of that..

    In theory, people would look like the photos they post via social media. However, we all know there is no IG filter for your face in real life. Do you ever find yourself looking at photos of yourself and thinking that you do not look like this photo but it looks really great with all the fogginess and bokeh? I don’t think I’m ugly by any means, and this is not me fishing, but sometimes I look at my own photos and I’m like DANGGGG GIRL WHO IS THAT?! I’m setting up people for failure with these higher than real life expectations. It’s like I’m Catfishing everyone. Sorta, but not really. You get what I’m saying here.

    In theory, I think my life seems extremely exciting. I live in London, I’m getting my Master’s degree in International Politics and Human Rights, I can easily travel to other countries, I am constantly meeting new people from different cultural backgrounds.. well, in actuality that is extremely exciting. But I mean, it has it’s issues. At the end of the day, I’m walking in this freezing weather, which in actuality I really.. really don’t like, y’all. And there are some other things, but I’ll save that for my Moleskine.

    I feel like there was some kind of a summation to be said here, a lesson.

    Perhaps just do not get so caught up about things in theory. Application is pretty important. This is coming someone who studies a lot of theory, in her extremely exciting life in a foreign country. But in the cold, don’t forget.

    And in theory, I’d write more– like I’m promised I would.. and in actuality, I swearrrr I’m trying.

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    On Lyka in London

    Hey you. I know it’s been months, but I haven’t forgotten about you. In fact I’ve thought about you several times in these past few months. A lot has changed, and I wanted to reveal it all when I was sure of what was happening. So I applied to a master’s programs, two psychology programs and one human rights program– and to my surprise I got accepted to all of them! Overwhelming and unexpected. I chose to pursue the Human Rights program, and am now currently living in the lovely city of London! I know it’s quite a stretch from my psychology roots.. and I’m learning week by week exactly how much of a deviation it is, but I have been interested in human rights for some time and it’s difficult to find this specific program. So I’ll stick with it and suck it up, because I paid for it.

    I’m finally just settling in after weeks of torture trying to find a place. It was probably one of the most stressful things in my life. I was convinced my hair was falling out. No joke. They say that moving is one of the most stressful things you’ll do in your life, and they were right. Try doing it in a foreign country where you don’t know any one. Actually, don’t.

    I know this deviates from the traditional post from me, and don’t worry I will shortly return to the snarkiness that is Lyka Boss. On that note, I’ll leave you with this*– my last image that I took from my webcam in Texas to me in my new room. From lush in Texas to naked in London. Just kidding, it’s a strapless shirt.

    On a side note, I saw Chris Hemsworth today at the Thor premiere as I was on my way to China Town to get steam bun for dinner. He’s lucky he didn’t make eye contact with me, I’m convinced I would have ruined his marriage. Lucky him. Jk. Sorta.

    I can’t believe I live in London. Effing London. I don’t believe it some days, but it’s pretty awesome.

    * Typical touristy London photos will come.. once I do touristy London stuff. Promise.

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    On being MIA

    I’m trying not to neglect my blog, I’ve just been trying to focus on my grad school apps. I swear. I never forgot about you, dear Blog. Every time I thought about blogging, I thought to myself “Hmm.. you should probably write those essays you’ve been putting off.” At the same time, a nice lady once told me to “Quit shoulding yourself.” So.. here I am with a quick update. I’ve been so busy. Sorta.

    Graduate school applications aside, I’ve been working out and trying to eat healthy. When I type it all out it doesn’t seem like much.. but when I say work out, you also have to include those hours before hand where I have to mentally prep myself to work out. Yea, I have to mentally prep to work out. I also have to mentally rest after work because I’m always around somebody. So really, I’ve been busy just being in my head. It’s a tough job for an introvert in a crowded world. Ha. I won’t get into my workouts too much, because I have no real desire to start a workout blog, but I’ll mention it every now and again because I spend most of my free time doing that if I’m not at home. I usually workout 5-6 days a week, I try to 6. In those days, I weight lift 4-5 days a week, followed by 30-60 minutes of cardio, and I end it with toning exercises. Sounds exciting doesn’t it? All this healthy stuff has been taking over my Instagram account. Basically I’m following Tone It Up’s Bikini Series on top of the weight lifting I do. It’s exhausting, but the results are amazing. I feel so much better about myself– honestly I was looking like a fat stuffed sausage for a while.

    Now speaking of being fat, another f-word that people don’t like. I have a theory about it. I’m not the kind of person who unhealthily obsesses about being thin or does hours of cardio until I pass out and just lives off of bird food. I’m not that girl. I’m not into shaming yourself and negative self-talk either. However, I do believe in being honest with yourself about your health and being able to say “listen, (insert your name here), you need to exercise and make better life style choices.” I did just that, and I don’t regret it. I haven’t lost a whole of weight, but my body has changed so much. Bonus, I can actually fit into my clothes. Now I know people don’t generally like to diet, but I see it more as a lifestyle choice. You really do have to look at food a different way and open your mind to other options other than butter. And I loved cooking with butter, y’all. To be honest though, I’ve tried so many new foods that now when I do eat something “bad” for me, I can feel it instantly in my stomach. I also now crave healthier options. I stay on track most of the time with these thoughts in my head–

  • Try to eat healthy most of the time
  • Listen to what your body is telling you.
  • Even if you get off track, get right back on it. You’ve made it this far and have come such a long way! Remember when you couldn’t run that mile?!
  • Be positive about this, and don’t compare yourself to other people
  • You will not regret going to the gym. But you will regret not going when you know you can do it.

    And really, it works. For me at least. One of the things that keeps me going is just thinking about all the things I couldn’t do when I started and seeing how much progress I’ve made. And like I said, I feel so much better about it. Sure I still have to remind my brain to shut up when I start comparing myself to other people, but that voice keeps getting more quiet as time goes by.. I can’t wait to post before and after pictures when the Bikini Series is over! And ladies (and gentlemen?), it’s not too late to join.

    Lifestyle aside, about a week ago, my good friend, Ai, took some photos of me! She did such a great job, and we had so much fun. I don’t remember what it was we were laughing about, but there was a ton of laughing involved. Here are just a few of the photos–



    And on that note.. I promise I’ll get back to regularly blogging. I have so many things to talk about– so many good topics I’ve been dying to blog about here! I’m off to get my Run Day Sunday out of the way. I shall be back soon ❤

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    Identity Crisis

    Hard to believe I’ve actually HAD this blog for years, yet I’m pretty sure I could count my posts with my fingers which is sad.  I’ve been brainstorming for a couple of days of where I want this blog to go– now that I finally have the resources to pour into my humble adobe.  You would think I’d have an idea, I’ve had months, years to figure this out.

    But yet here I am.

    I was watching a stand up yesterday and upon further investigation I found out that this particular comedian started gaining popularity once he stopped “trying” and just would speak from things he knew, situations he grew up with.. basically told funny anecdotes of himself.  Then I got to thinking, I guess instead of me trying to think of what to make of this place on the internet called my website, I should just do what I do best and type about what comes to mind.  Instead of forcing it (which I’m strongly against), I’ll just type and see where this takes me.

    I’m going to assume you* know me well enough to know I’m in my own head a lot.  The word is introvert.  So I really DO have a lot to say, I just share wisely.  At least that’s the word I like to use for it. 

    Anyway my whole point is, I really wanted this to be a lifestyle and travel blog– then I thought, I certainly don’t have the funds to support the traveling.  Two trips a year really does not suffice to make me a professional traveler.  One can dream though.  And as far as lifestyle.. no comment.

    Realistically, I can see myself talking about things that make me the lovely* person you know today, and my observations on people in general.  Maybe I’ll throw in a recipe or two.  Who knows.

    I can tell you this, I have approximately MORE drafts than I do of actual posts.  I started writing a lot of blog posts, and either I just could NOT do it or I just got stumped.  I think a lot of it I really did not want to offend people, and I knew I would definitely offend people.  But now that I’m 24, I think I’d feel a little less bad about offending people I know.  Only a little.  And besides, I’m wayyyy better without a filter.  It’s a part of the charm, I think.

    *You meaning my two friends that I KNOW will at least click through to check on my “newly discovered” blog

    *I may or may not be sarcastic about the use of “lovely”

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    Eureka!

    Finally.  I bought my first computer!  Who knew it would take me so long to commit to such a purchase?  I certainly thought this moment would happen a long time ago.  I have commitment issues, even with something so trivial as a computer.  At least I’m aware.  This new toy is very basic, but I can make it work for now.  Besides I have something in mind that I want to invest in at a later time, and until then.. this will do.

    So expect this website to FINALLY be put to use– and of course a much better layout than this.. it’s certainly not “Lyka Boss” worthy.

    Until next time..

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