Ok so.. I’ll just say the first thing that pops into my mind in regards to this topic.
Taylor freakin’ Swift.
No this is not a hate post about her, but I’m just saying. Nor is this a post about just women who are serial daters. I’d like to think of myself as an equal opportunist when it comes to things that annoy me, and if I don’t like one gender doing it, I most certainly don’t like that other doing it as well.
I know, this has nothing to do with me– but it kinda does. So hear me out..
We all have this friend (or maybe you ARE this friend) that just jumps from relationship to relationshit. You watch it all pan out in your Facebook feed– he’s single, he’s taken, he’s in a “domestic relationship”, and the ambiguous, but fun, it’s complicated.
I really, and truly, feel for people like that. I also would like to slap anyone that I know that is like that. I’m serious, man. I think– there’s a certain point where you just have to think to yourself that “maybe, serial dating is not working out for me. Maybe I just need to chill the fuck out and learn to be OK with myself first, before I even consider being happy with another human being.” I think that’s logical, wouldn’t you say? Of course you would.
I think being young and dating people to find out what you’re into is great and all, but there’s that point.. that most people should hit where you’re seeing the patterns. You see that maybe things haven’t worked out with Randy, Paul, and John because you’re pretty sure they’re all the exact same guy. Then it all clicks, you + this type does not compute to a healthy/lasting/fulfilling relationship (assuming that’s your end goal). Logically, you’d recognize it and learn and move onto something that suits you.
But I’m not talking about those people.
I’m talking about those other people that continue and continue to date the exact same person– literally and figuratively. Those people that get left broken hearted every single month because the same type of prick didn’t appreciate them. Hey, how about you appreciate yourself and do yourself a favor and hold yourself to a higher standard? Be selective. Be alone. Go find yourself in the mountains, or at the mall– whatever. Better things come your way when that happens, trust me. Be open to different, but don’t just be open for everyone to get on the merry-go-round.. you see where I’m going with this. And so what if your Facebook status will read that you’re single for two long months.. you’ll be OK. If anything you won’t be that person that I (and probably at least 47% of your friends) am silently judging because your new flavor of the week changes more often than this crazy North Texas weather. But don’t do it for me.. do it for yourself, because at the end of the day– you’ve got yourself, and if you can’t look out for yourself well.. you’re S.O.L., I suppose.